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These books are listed alphabetical by title.  If you click on the title of the book you can read a description of the book and find links to Amazon.com where you can compare prices for the book.


 

 

 

 

 

Book Title

Author


35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child Dougy Center for Grieving Children
After a Murder: A Workbook for Grieving Kids Dougy Center for Grieving Children
After a Parent's Suicide: Helping Children Heal Margo Requarth
Breaking the Silence: A Guide to Help Children with Complicated Grief- Suicide, Homicide, AIDS, Violence and Abuse Linda Goldman
But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For Parents and Professionals Helping Child Suicide Survivors Barbara Rubel
Children Also Grieve Linda Goldman
Children and Grief: When A Parent Dies J. William Worden
Children Helping Children With Grief Beverly Chappell
Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy (3rd Edition) J. William Worden
Group Work with Adolescents After Violent Death: A Manual for Practitioners Alison Salloum
Helping Children Cope with Death Dougy Center for Grieving Children
Helping Teens Cope with Death Dougy Center for Grieving Children
Helping the Grieving Student: A Guide for Teachers Dougy Center for Grieving Children
Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies Janis Silverman
How Can I Help?: How to Support Someone Who is Grieving June Cerza Kolf
Life and Loss: A Guide to Help Grieving Children Linda Goldman
Talking About Death Earl A. Grollman
Treating Trauma and Traumatic Greif in Children and Adolescents Judith A. Cohen
What About the Kids? Understanding Their Needs in Funeral Planning and Services Dougy Center for Grieving Children
When Death Impacts Your School: A Guide for School Administrators Dougy Center for Grieving Children
   

 

 


 

35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children

 
 


If you know a child or teen who has experienced a death, this guidebook presents you with simple and practical suggestions for how to support him or her. Learn what behaviors and reactions to expect from children at different ages, ways to create safe outlets for children to express their thoughts and feelings and how to be supportive during special events such as the memorial service, anniversaries and holidays.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.


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After a Murder: A Workbook for Grieving Kids
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children

 


 


Through the stories, thoughts and feelings of other kids who have experienced a murder, this hands-on workbook allows children to see that they are not alone in their feelings and experiences. The workbook includes drawing activities, puzzles and word games to help explain confusing elements specific to a murder, such as the police, media and legal system.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.

 


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After A Parent's Suicide: Helping Children Heal
by Margo Requarth

 

 

 

 

While many books have been written for grieving families, very few focus on the specific needs encountered by children and teens coping with the suicide of a parent. After a Parent’s Suicide: Helping Children Heal addresses the issues every family must face following the trauma of suicide. In this instructive and impassioned work, longtime children’s bereavement counselor and psychotherapist Margo Requarth, M.A., M.F.T., offers pathways through the despair, confusion and fear that follow.

Starting with the haunting tale of her own mother’s suicide, Requarth weaves together her experience counseling “survivors,” poignant interviews with children, teens and parents, and the latest research on suicide and its aftermath. What emerges is a groundbreaking “how-to” guide for parent survivors and others who care for young people: how to manage both the immediate and long-term implications of the suicide, how to talk to children and teens about what has happened, how to see them through the heart-rending anguish to a place of acceptance, healing, and finally, a renewed and deepened capacity for joy.

 


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Breaking the Silence: A Guide to Help Children with Complicated Grief- Suicide, Homicide, AIDS, Violence and Abuse
by Linda Goldman

 






 



The second edition of this bestselling book is designed for mental health professionals, educators, and the parent/caregiver, this book provides specific ideas and techniques to work with children in various areas of complicated grief. It presents words and methods to help initiate discussions of these delicate topics, as well as tools to help children understand and separate complicated grief into parts. These parts in turn can be grieved for and released one at a time.

A new chapter is included, called "Communities Grieve: Involvement with Children and Trauma." It includes information on The Taiwan Earthquake and how the community worked with children, a school bus accident in which 36 elementary school children witnessed the death of the bus driver that was driving and how the school system worked with these children and their families; a boy who was running on a cross country team and got hit by a car, which was witnessed by teammates; and how a non-profit community grief agency worked with family, school, and community. The last study is from the Oklahoma bombing and the outgrowth of a place for the traumatized children and how they still work with kids and family today. This chapter then contains new activities to work with traumatized grieving children.

The new edition also includes updated resources, books, curriculums, websites, hotlines and another new chapter on bullying and victimization issues. The chapter for educators has been expanded, including the coverage of topics such as at-risk students, gay and lesbian issues, and self-injurious behaviors.


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But I Didn't Say Goodbye: For Parents and Professionals Helping Child Suicide Survivors
by Barbara Rubel

 

Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D., Professor of Gerontology, College of New Rochelle, NY, Senior Consultant, Hospice Foundation of America
"This is an extraordinary resource to help children deal with the difficult often hidden and stigmatizing after effects of suicide."

Rabbi Earl Grollman, D.H.L.;D.D., author with Max Malikow, Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide
"A richly imaginative and innovative work that is solidly grounded and eminently readable . . ."
 


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Children Also Grieve
by Linda Goldman

 


 


From School Library Journal

PreSchool-Grade 1–This title, meant to be shared by a child and an adult, will help youngsters deal with grief. The book is divided into four sections. In Henry's Story, the family dog tells of Grandfather's death and describes family members and their various responses (Grandfather died and I am very sad; This is Ling….He is sad after Grandfather died and doesn't feel like playing ball anymore). Each reaction is different, but considered completely normal. Some pages include a question or two designed to encourage children to talk about their feelings (Can you tell me what you think death is?). Colored photographs are interspersed throughout the dog's narration. The My Memory Book section contains 19 pages of fill-in-the-blank sentences and opportunities to add or draw pictures. A two-page glossary defines words associated with death and grieving. The last part, For Caring Adults, provides information about a child's understanding of death, signs of grief, and more. While some children might wonder why the dog is telling the story, this book will encourage dialogue and will aid children in dealing with loss and healing.–Maryann H. Owen, Racine Public Library, WI
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Children and Grief: When A Parent Dies
by J. William Worden



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


"Understanding of the child and of bereavement has informed the systematic approach of the investigators. Most impressive is the attention to details such as developmental level, gender of the child, gender of the deceased and living parent, family size, and sibling order, to mention only a few....This is a readable and practical contribution to the clinical understanding of children who have lost a parent." --The Journal of Psychotherapy Practice and Research

"Each chapter contains a wealth of information, well presented, written in Worden's own inimitable free-flowing style and summarized clearly at the end. This book is more than just the findings from a research project. It offers concise and sensible guidance for those working in the field with families where children are bereaved." --Mortality

"...excellent...this reference book is destined to become another classic in the field of bereavement, grief, and mourning....Any teacher or student of children's grief will definitely want this book in his or her personal professional library....Worden's expertise comes through as he applies his four tasks of the mourning model to the children's level....A nice bonus in this book is Worden's comparisons of the loss of a parent by divorce juxtapositioned against the loss of a parent by death....This book certainly serves as a model of excellence of what can be accomplished and published in the arena of death and dying." --Illness, Crisis & Loss

"...a consummately crafted volume that should become required reading for all psychotherapists in training, practicing psychotherapists with a multicultural clientele, and teachers of advanced multicultural psychology or psychology of women courses." --Signs

"This is an instructive, practical, and readable book that clearly deserves attention....Worden writes in a simple, clear, and straightforward style. He is thoroughly familiar with the literature in his field. He takes care to describe the work of others plainly and fairly, and to show how that work relates to his own views. He organizes materials well. He makes good use of the task-based approach to understanding coping with loss and grief that he first introduced, and he draws on his own extensive experience as a clinician, researcher, and presenter." --Death Studies

"...informative, and eminently readable....It will become a classic study in the area....clinicians and researchers alike will return to this book often for its clear and perceptive treatment of the central issues in the lives of bereaved children and their families." --The Journal of Nervous & Mental Disease

"The author is a concise writer, with clear lines of thought....I appreciate how research data have been presented in a clinically practical fashion. Two immensely strong points about this book are the inclusion of verbatim statements from children to add a human dimension to the data, and also the summary 'points to remember' at the end of each chapter....This book will satisfy readers from many differing levels of expertise. It gives a reliable look at the landscape of mourning, in which the reader will find many helpful signposts." --Canadian Child Psychiatry Review

"An important book....Clearly written, with powerful quotations from children themselves, summaries at the end of each chapter and a helpful biography." --Palliative Medicine


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Children Helping Children with Greif
by Beverly Chappell

 

In 1982, Beverly Chappell met Dougy Turno, a young boy suffering from an inoperable brain tumor. Dougy’s wisdom, compassion, and thirst for life far exceeded his 13 years. His death inspired Bev, a registered nurse working in the area of death and dying, to start support groups for grieving children. At the time, medical and psychological professionals did not widely acknowledge that children grieve. Undaunted, and with the help of her mentor, Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Bev founded The Dougy Center. Since its founding, the center has served more than 15,000 children and their families, and its training program has taught thousands of others how to help children cope with death. In this book, Beverly Chappell writes about her work and the center, and about the many grieving families she's met over the years — families who have inspired her to continue her groundbreaking work.


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Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy (3rd Edition)
by J. William Worden

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Praise for earlier editions:

"Worden ... has again provided mental health professionals with a superb guide describing specific principles and procedures that may be helpful in working with bereaved clients undergoing normal or abnormal grief reactions .... an extremely practical book and an invaluable resource."
--Contemporary Psychology

"This book is the 'Bible' for those involved in the field of bereavement work...It is a straightforward, tightly focused, practical, soundly reasoned, compact working text."
--William M. Lamers, Jr., MD., The Lamers Medical Group

"If you had one book dealing with grief counseling available to you, this is the one you should select."
--Caregiver Quarterly

"Worden has brought a critical and discerning mind to bear. ... His delineation of 'the tasks of mourning' is a masterly and original summation, and the ways by which we can help others to grow through grieving are clearly described."
--From the Foreword by Colin Murray Parkes, UK edition

In this updated and revised third edition of his classic text, Dr. Worden presents his most recent thinking on bereavement drawn from extensive research, clinical work, and the best of the new literature. Readers will find new information on special types of losses--including children's violent deaths, grief and the elderly, and anticipatory grief--as well as refinements to his basic model for mourning. It now not only includes the four "tasks of mourning" but also seven "mediators of mourning." In addition, a series of vignettes, the best of the first and second editions, plus several new to this edition, bring bereavement issues to life.

 


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Group Work with Adolescents After Violent Death: A Manual for Practitioners
by Alison Salloum


 

This manual, for use by facilitators of teen grief groups and other mental health practitioners, addresses the needs of adolescents experiencing traumatic reactions in the aftermath of violent death. It includes information on how to help teens who have had someone close to them die violently, as well as those who have witnessed violence firsthand, or have been confronted with secondhand accounts of violent death. Group Work with Adolescents After Violent Death will include information on all types of violent death, and is intended to be a practical guide for practitioners addressing issues of violence, trauma and loss specific to the experiences of adolescents.


 


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Helping Children Cope with Death
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children

 

 

 

 

This guidebook offers a comprehensive, easy-to-read overview of how children grieve and strategies to support them. Based on The Dougy Center’s work with thousands of grieving children and their families, you will learn how children understand death, how to talk with children about death at various developmental stages, how to be helpful and when to seek outside help. This book is useful for parents, teachers, helping professionals and anyone trying to support a grieving child.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.

 


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Helping Teens Cope with Death
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children

 

 

 

This practical guide covers the unique grief responses of teenagers and the specific challenges they face when grieving a death. You will learn how death impacts teenagers and ways that you can help them. The book also offers advice from parents and caregivers of bereaved teens on how to support adolescents and how to determine when professional help is needed.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.

 


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Helping the Grieving Student: A Guide for Teachers
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children

 



At some point, every teacher will encounter a student who has been affected by a death. This guidebook is an essential resource for elementary, middle- and high-school teachers, offering practical tips and information to respond to a death.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.

 


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Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies
by Janis Silverman

 

An art therapy and activity book for children coping with death. Sensitive exercises address all the questions children may have during this emotional and troubling crisis. Children are encouraged to express in pictures what they are often incapable of expressing in words.

Author teaches gifted children in a Chicago suburb. Art therapy book that encourages children to express their feelings in words or pictures. Discusses what to say and do, how to deal with feelings, and how to remember friends and relatives that have died. For parents, teachers, and therapists. Landscape format.

 


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How Can I Help?: How to Support Someone Who is Grieving
by June Cerza Kolf


 
















 


How do you help someone who is grieving?When do you call? How can you help with practical matters? What kind of emotions can you expect to encounter? Here's a helping hand with these difficult issues.

Listen to real-life stories that are easy to relate to, and benefit from concrete ideas to help others in each stage of grief.

You just found out . . . Responding to the news—what to say and do, and what not to

One week after . . . Listening and offering unconditional support

First six months . . . Helping with practical matters—belongings, finances, change in residence

One-year anniversary . . . Remembering their loved one

Being a support for someone who is grieving can be draining. June also helps you to remember to take care of yourself so you can keep on giving.

How Can I Help? takes the mystery out of grief. Gain strength and knowledge from June's expert advice, and benefit from her hard-earned experience. You are needed—you can help.

June Cerza Kolf served as director of bereavement and hospice-volunteer coordinator for a hospice organization in Antelope Valley, California, for more than 12 years. She has worked with both terminally ill patients and people in bereavement.

 


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Life and Loss: A Guide to Help Grieving Children
by Linda Goldman

 


 


With this resource, the reader learns to recognize and understand different types of childhood losses while avoiding the stifling cliches that block feeling. The reader will also become aware of the myths that hinder the grief process, learn the four psychological tasks of grief, and help a child say good-bye to a dying loved one. Finally, the author explains the techniques of grief work, providing useful tools, ideas, and inventories for educators to discover ways for kids to commemorate loss (funerals, memorials, memory books).

The second edition of Life and Loss creates a framework for work with childhood grief in the new millennium. A vast amount of resources have been added and updated, some especially for educators and for those who work with children and dying. Also included are web sites, cd-roms, and grief camps. Additional grief resolution techniques have also been added, demonstrating children's written work and artwork as well. The inclusion of two timely childhood losses - the loss of the protection of the adult world and the loss of a future - sets the stage for griefwork for today's and tomorrow's children

 


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Talking About Death
by Earl A. Grollman


 

Why do people die? How do you explain the loss of a loved one to a child? This book is a compassionate guide for adults and children to read together, featuring a read along story, answers to questions children ask about death, and a comprehensive list of resources and organizations that can help.






 


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Treating Trauma and Traumatic Greif in Children and Adolescents
by Judith A. Cohen, Anthony P. Mannarino and Ester Deblinger

 


This is one of the first books to present a systematic treatment approach, grounded in cognitive-behavioral therapy, for traumatized children and their families. Provided is a comprehensive framework for assessing posttraumatic stress disorder, depression, anxiety, and other symptoms; developing a flexible, individualized treatment plan; and working collaboratively with children and parents to build core skills in such areas as affect regulation and safety. Specific guidance is offered for responding to different types of traumatic events, with an entire section devoted to grief-focused components. Also addressed are ways to tailor treatment to children's varying developmental levels and cultural backgrounds. The authors' approach has been nationally recognized as an exemplary evidence-based program.


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What About the Kids? Understanding Their Needs in Funeral Planning and Services
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children


 
 


This book addresses the best practices for funeral and memorial services with children and teens. Learn how to include children in these rituals and creative ways to involve them in the process. You will find suggestions from children and teens about what was helpful and unhelpful about the funeral or memorial service they attended.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.


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When Death Impacts Your School: A Guide for School Administrators
by Dougy Center for Grieving Children

 



 


This is a valuable resource for school personnel who are faced with a death or tragedy in their school community. This guidebook includes suggestions for how schools can help students- by addressing concerns, organizing memorials and offering support. It also includes instructions for developing a school intervention plan after a death, how to address issues related to suicide and violence and how to decide when outside help is needed.

Since 1983, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families has provided loving support in a safe place where children, teens and their families grieving a death can share their experiences as they move through their healing process. Based in Portland, Oregon, The Dougy Center works regionally, nationally and internationally to provide support and training to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

The Dougy Center is supported solely through private support from individuals, foundations and companies, and receives no state or federal funding. The Dougy Center does not charge a fee for its services.

 


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