Hansen-Spear Bereavement Resources
 
Adult Books for Grief and Bereavement

These books are listed alphabetical by title.  If you click on the title of the book you can read a description of the book and find links to Amazon.com where you can compare prices for the book.


 

 

 

 

 

Book Title

Author


Aftershock: Help, Hope and Healing in the Wake of Suicide Arrington Cox
Companion Through the Darkness: Inner Dialogues on Grief Stephanie Ericsson
Don't Take My Grief Away From Me

Doug Manning

Finding Your Way After a Parent Dies

Richard B. Gilbert

Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies Marta Felber
Grief Expressed When a Mate Dies Marta Felber
Grieving a Suicide: A Loved One's Search for Comfort, Answers and Hope Albert Y. Hsu
Grief Steps Companion Workbooks and Journal Brook Noel
Healing the Adult Child's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Parent Dies Alan D. Wolfelt
Healing Your Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas Alan D. Wolfelt
Healing Your Holiday Grief: 100 Practical Ideas Alan D. Wolfelt
Healing Your Traumatized Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Someone You Love Dies a Sudden, Violent Death Alan D. Wolfelt
How Can I Help?: How to Support Someone Who is Grieving June Cerza Kolf
I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal Linda Feinberg
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One Brook Noel
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye Workbook: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One Brook Noel
Lament for a Son Nicholas Wolterstorff
Living in the Shadow of the Ghosts of Your Grief Alan D. Wolfelt
Living When a Loved One Has Died Earl A. Grollman
Living With Grief (Grief Steps Guide) Brook Noel
Living With Loss, Healing With Hope Earl A. Grollman
Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide Earl A. Grollman
Loss and Found: How We Survived the Loss of a Young Spouse Gary Young
Loving Still, Loving Always Nita Aasen
Please Hear of My Lost Love Doug Manning
Seven Choices: Finding Daylight After Loss Shatters Your World Elizabeth Harper Neeld
Share My Lonesome Valley Doug Manning
Suicide of a Child Adina Wrobleski
Surviving Holidays, Birthdays and Anniversaries (Grief Steps Guide) Brook Noel
The Empty Chair: Handling Grief of the Holidays and Special Occasions Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge
The Mourning Handbook Helen Fitzgerald
Thoughts for the Lonely Nights Doug Manning
Thoughts for the Grieving Christian Doug Manning
Thoughts for the Holidays: Finding Permission to Grieve Doug Manning
Understanding Grief Edgar N. Jackson
When Grief Comes: Finding Strength for Today and Hope for Tomorrow Kirk H. Neely
When Will I Stop Hurting? June Cerza Kolf
Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life Genevieve Davis Ginsburg

 

 


 

 

Aftershock: Help, Hope and Healing in the Wake of Suicide
by Arrington Cox


 

Every seventeen minutes, someone, somewhere, chooses death by self-murder. In the wake of this horrific decision, other people are left to cope with the ripples caused. This book will provide knowledge and resources for those left in the wake of suicide.

Aftershock is a recovery book that will provide encouragement and support for survivors. Examining the complex emotions involved in grieving a suicide death, readers will come to realize they are not alone in their grief and will not be alone in their healing.



 


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Companion Through the Darkness: Inner Dialogues on Grief
by Stephanie Ericsson

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


As a result of her own experience with many kind of loss, Stephanie Ericsson offers an intimate, profoundly touching guide for those in grief, legitimizing the complex and often taboo emotions we all feel when loss transforms our lives. In Companion Through the Darkness, Stephanie Ericsson defines grief as "the constant reawakening that things are now different." Using a very simple format -- which combines excerpts from her own diary writings with brief essays -- she vividly speaks the language of loss and captures the contradictory, wrenching, and chaotic emotions of grief. The book can be opened at any point to chapters no more than a few pages long on such themes as:

Abandonment: The sudden state I am forced into. I no longer belong to you. I no longer belong to anyone.

Rage: The state I use to survive seemingly moments of intolerable pain.

Humor: The backside of agony.

Pity: The look on people's faces when they haven't a clue what to say to me.

Transition: The moments, strung out over months, when I know I am no longer the woman I was, but not quite the woman I am becoming.

The result is compelling, intimate, and heartbreakingly truthful -- a book that promises to be enormously sought-after support and touchstone for all those making their own journey through grief.

Stephanie Ericsson is a screenwriter and advertising copywriter and the author of ShameFaced and Recovering Together. She began writing a journal of her experiences after the loss of her husband while she was pregnant with their only child, and later published a widely acclaimed excerpt from the book in the Utne Reader. A frequent speaker on the subjects of loss, she lives in Minneapolis, Minnesota.

 


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Don't Take My Grief Away From Me
by Doug Manning



 


Nobody addresses the needs of a grieving person like Doug Manning. His warm conversational style takes the reader through all the emotions and experiences that accompany the death of a loved one.

The first section of the book deals with those first few days after a death and all the plans and decisions that need to be made. The second section picks up the grief journey and provides guidance, assurances and hopes for healing.

Doug Manning has been writing and speaking in the areas of grief and elder care for the past 20 years. His best selling titles; Don't Take My Grief Away From Me and When Love Gets Tough have sold over a million copies since published. A former minister, Manning now travels the country as a most sought after seminar speaker. His company, In-Sight Books, Inc. has published over 40 books, audios, and videos in these special topic areas. Doug writes like a long-time friend who is sitting in the room with you sharing your experiences and your hurt.  


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Finding Your Way After Your Parent Dies
by Richard B. Gilbert

 

The experience of losing a parent is almost universal. Yet, many who feel this loss for the first time are surprised at how painful it can be. Even those well into adulthood are often shocked by the loneliness that the death of a parent can bring.

Rev. Richard Gilbert has created a compassionate guide for those experiencing this loss. From the disorientation that can come immediately after death to relating to the surviving parent and healing old emotional wounds, the topics dealt with here will be of tremendous help to many.

Each chapter ends with a closing thought and an inspirational saying or prayer.
 
 


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Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies
by Marta Felber

 

 

 

 


If you have suffered the death of your spouse, you have experienced one of the most painful and disorienting experiences life can offer. In the days immediately following the loss, you may need everything from advice on finances to a home-cooked meal. But there is nothing you need more than the warm, reassuring voice of one who has traveled this path before. . .and survived.

In Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies, Marta Felber offers just such a voice-caring, hopeful, always pointing ahead to a tomorrow that will be a little easier than today. Having experienced her own spouse's death, Felber is never glib or simplistic. She knows the grief her readers are feeling and she encourages them to give it full expression. At the same time, she offers sound, practical suggestions on how to navigate difficult days. Sleepless nights, sudden responsibilities, spiritual questions: this book shies away from none of the difficult issues of bereavement. Felber gently urges her readers toward careful, honest examination of the issues they face.

Written in short, easy-to-read chapters, Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies is the perfect companion for one who is struggling to pick up the pieces and go on.

 


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Grief Expressed When a Mate Dies
by Marta Felber

 







 


From Mature Living/March 1999, Palm Springs, CA
Marta Felber has succeeded in wiritng a straightforward survival guide for anyone who has lost a spouse. Felber describes proactive steps for individuals to take to work through their grief. Felber drew from her counseling background for self-healing after the death of her husband, and is all too familiar with the feelings that can linger during this time.

As Ann M. Mitchell, Ph.D. writes; "One feels her struggles and her strength as she works through her grief and reaches a place of renewed self-identity and wholeness."

While the book provides encouragement and compassion, the reader plays an important role in working through their own issues. Each chapter focuses on the most difficult issues surrounding the loss of a spouse; from sex to friends to memorials, and a space is provided in the book for the reader to jot down personal experiences. In this way, feelings are channeled into a positive and cathartic direction.

While books on similar topics often emphasize a reactive mindset, Felber strongly believes in taking positive, specific steps to dealing with loss. The book is empowering and optimistic, from somebody who knows what she is writing about. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

 


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Grieving A Suicide: A Loved One's Search for Comfort, Answers and Hope
by Albert Y. Hsu

 




 


From Publishers Weekly

This guide for suicide survivors family and friends of people who took their own lives maintains InterVarsity Press's tradition of cerebral evangelicalism: it is biblical, well reasoned, clearly presented and thoroughly researched. Such a head-over-heart presentation is not surprising, since the author is an IVP editor. An unexpected bonus is the personal thread Hsu weaves through each chapter, the story of his own deep grief at his father's sudden suicide four years ago. In the book's first section, Hsu explores the emotions of grief from sudden shock to eventual remembrance. Though his map of grieving differs from the familiar one proposed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Hsu never minimizes grief's importance. "Only when we actively mourn will we be able to receive the comfort that God and others offer," he writes. Nevertheless, "those without [Christian] hope grieve in one way; those with hope grieve in another." The Christian way of grieving is Hsu's focus in the latter half of the book, where he surveys Scripture to deal with questions such as whether people who die by suicide can go to heaven, where God is when tragedy strikes and what can be learned from suicide. With its careful biblical exposition presented in a friendly homiletic style, Hsu's how-to-think-about-suicide book will have value for evangelical pastors and counselors as much as perhaps even more than for the bereaved themselves.
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.


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Grief Steps Companion Workbook and Journal
by Brook Noel

 

 


Grief Steps workbook 10 steps to regroup, rebuild and renew after any life loss You can rebuild and renew after loss. In her wise and compassionate guide GriefSteps, best-selling author Brook Noel shared the steps one must take to grieve successfully and rebuild a full life after loss. This companion workbook offers step-by-step exercises based on years of research and working with the bereaved. For anyone seeking to work through their grief on their own or in a support group setting, this companion workbook reveals the 10 Steps that we must take to face our grief and heal. Whether your loss is a relationship, a job, a loved one, or a piece of yourself, there are universal steps that must be taken to rebuild. Noel reveals each step along with exercises and HopeNotes to guide you in your journey. Whether your loss is recent or years ago, GriefSteps will show you how to resolve and reconcile your world to find contentment and purpose in your life. Brook Noel is the founder of GriefSteps.com and best-selling co-author of I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye. She is a noted grief expert and has appeared on Fox, ABC World News Now, CNN and many other shows and stations.

 


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Healing the Adult Child's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Parent Dies
by Alan D. Wolfelt

 


Offering heartfelt and simple advice, this book provides realistic suggestions and relief for an adult child whose parent has died. Practical advice is presented in a one-topic-per-page format that does not overwhelm with psychological language, but provides small, immediate ways to understand and reconcile grief. Some of the action-oriented tips include writing down memories, completing a task or goal left unfinished by your deceased parent, or honoring the parent's birthday. In addition the common challenges that face grieving adult children, such as helping the surviving parent, resolving sibling conflicts, and legal and financial issues, are addressed clearly and concisely.

Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., is the director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, a faculty member at the University of Colorado Medical School, and the author of Understanding Grief: Helping Yourself Heal, Journey Through Grief: Reflections on Healing, and the Healing a Grieving Heart series. He is best known for his method of "companioning" versus treating the bereaved. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado.


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Healing Your Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas
by Alan D. Wolfelt

 

Knowing what to do with your grief and how to mourn doesn’t always come naturally. This book offers 100 practical ideas to help you practice self-compassion.

Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., is the director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, a faculty member at the University of Colorado Medical School, and the author of Understanding Grief: Helping Yourself Heal, Journey Through Grief: Reflections on Healing, and the Healing a Grieving Heart series. He is best known for his method of "companioning" versus treating the bereaved. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado.


 


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Healing Your Holiday Grief: 100 Practical Ideas
by Alan D. Wolfelt
 


With compassionate insight, this handbook helps those in mourning through what can be the hardest time of year—the holiday season. Mourners will better understand their complex emotions after reading about such topics as honoring thoughts and feelings, creating new traditions, finding ways to de-stress, and incorporating healing rituals into the holiday season. This book's practical wisdom also covers issues such as decision-making during the holidays and coping with the blending of mourning and celebration. All of the answers and advice in this guide are provided in the popular 100 ideas format that features one idea per page, allowing readers to fully absorb each suggestion.
 
Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD, is the director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition. He writes the "Children and Grief" column for Bereavement Magazine and has appeared on Larry King Live, The Oprah Winfrey Show, and The Today Show. He is the author of Healing a Teen's Grieving Heart, Healing Your Grieving Heart, and Understanding Your Grief. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado.
 


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Healing Your Traumatized Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Someone You Love Dies a Sudden, Violent Death
by Alan D. Wolfelt

 


Dealing with grief in a practical manner, this guide offers compassionate tips for those affected by a traumatic death. Included are topics such as coping with family stress, expressing feelings of hurt and anger, dealing with hurtful comments, and exploring feelings of guilt. Each of the 100 suggestions is aimed at reducing the confusion, anxiety, and huge personal void in order to help survivors begin their lives again. Some of the tips include understanding the special characteristics of trauma grief, planting a tree in memory of the person who died, and making connections with others affected by a similar death.

Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D., is the director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, a faculty member at the University of Colorado Medical School, and the author of Understanding Grief: Helping Yourself Heal, Journey Through Grief: Reflections on Healing, and the Healing a Grieving Heart series. He is best known for his method of "companioning" versus treating the bereaved. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado.


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How Can I Help?: How to Support Someone Who is Grieving
by June Cerza Kolf


 
















 


How do you help someone who is grieving?When do you call? How can you help with practical matters? What kind of emotions can you expect to encounter? Here's a helping hand with these difficult issues.

Listen to real-life stories that are easy to relate to, and benefit from concrete ideas to help others in each stage of grief.

You just found out . . . Responding to the news—what to say and do, and what not to

One week after . . . Listening and offering unconditional support

First six months . . . Helping with practical matters—belongings, finances, change in residence

One-year anniversary . . . Remembering their loved one

Being a support for someone who is grieving can be draining. June also helps you to remember to take care of yourself so you can keep on giving.

How Can I Help? takes the mystery out of grief. Gain strength and knowledge from June's expert advice, and benefit from her hard-earned experience. You are needed—you can help.

June Cerza Kolf served as director of bereavement and hospice-volunteer coordinator for a hospice organization in Antelope Valley, California, for more than 12 years. She has worked with both terminally ill patients and people in bereavement.

 


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I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye Workbook: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair

 




 


A workbook of healing and hope based on the bestselling book I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved one, this workbook offers step-by-step support and encouragement through the grief journey.

Now there is a hand to hold:
Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member. The list of high visibility disasters, human suffering and sudden loss in long and will continue to grow. From TWA Flight 800 to Egypt Air 990, from Oklahoma City to Columbine, daily we face incomprehensible loss. Outside the publicized tragedies there are many families and individuals that are suffering behind closed doors in our neighborhoods, in our own homes, in hospital waiting rooms. Now for those who face the challenges of sudden death, there is a hand to hold written by two women who have experience sidden loss. In a book that will touch, comfort, uplift and console, authors Brook Nowl and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. explore sudden death and its role in the cycle of life. Tapping the personal histories of both authors and numerous interviews, I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye shows grieving readers how to endure, survive and grow from the pain and turmoil surrounding human loss. For survivors this valuable book provides a rock-steady anchor from which to weather the storm of pain and begin to rebuild their lives.


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I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal
by Linda Feinberg

 

I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can sensitively guides young widows and widowers through the normal grieving process while highlighting the special circumstances of facing an untimely death. Hundreds of young widows and widowers, with whom the author has worked with for more than a decade as a counselor, share their thoughts and dilemmas about the situations that arise as a result of losing a loved one, among them what to tell young children experiencing a parent's death, returning to work, and dealing with in-laws and other relatives.

 

 


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I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One
by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair




George C. Kandle, Pastoral Psychologist

"This book, by women who have done their homework on grief, offers a companion for others still recuperating. Further, it introduces us to so many others, both famous and ordinary, who can hold a hand and comfort a soul through grief's wilderness. Outstanding reference of where to seek other help."
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Bradley Evans, MD,Cardiologist, Providence, Portland
"A well written book about a very difficult subject. This book will be extremely useful for those going through these difficult times."



 


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Lament for a Son
by Nicholas Wolterstorff


 

Wolterstorff, a well-known Christian philosopher, lost his 25-year-old son to a mountain climbing accident. His reflections in the wake of that tragedy are at times deeply personal, but always he expresses a prayerful anguish with which most bereaved parents will identify. Above all he refuses to turn from the "demonic awfulness" of death and, as he moves faithfully through grief, discovers new meaning in the Beatitudes, together with a new understanding of a suffering God. Spiritually enriching and theologically substantive.


 

 


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Living in the Shadow of the Ghosts of Your Grief
by Alan D. Wolfelt
 

 


Explaining how multitudes of North Americans are carrying the pain of all types of loss—not just the deaths of loved ones but also the loss of a spouse through divorce, children who leave home, and the decline of health as they age or get sick—this balanced resource empowers mourners and grief counselors to turn grief into an experience to be learned from. Defining the varieties of heartache and its consequences, this effective guide explores how to inventory, understand, embrace, and reconcile one's accumulated sorrow through a five-phase "catch-up" mourning process. Readers will learn to use a spiritual and holistic approach to examine and integrate the ignored loss from their pasts, so that they can go on to live fuller, more balanced lives.
 
Alan D. Wolfelt serves as the director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Live, and Today. He is a regular contributor to Living with Loss magazine and the author of Healing Your Grieving Heart, Healing a Teen's Grieving Heart, and Understanding Your Grief. He lives in Fort Collins, Colorado.
 


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Living When A Loved One Has Died
by Earl A. Grollman

 










 


When someone you love dies, Earl Grollman writes, "there is no way to predict how you will feel. The reactions of grief are not like recipes, with given ingredients, and certain results. . . . Grief is universal. At the same time it is extremely personal. Heal in your own way."

If someone you know is grieving, Living When a Loved One Has Died can help. Earl Grollman explains what emotions to expect when mourning, what pitfalls to avoid, and how to work through feelings of loss. Suitable for pocket or bedside, this gentle book guides the lonely and suffering as they move through the many facets of grief, begin to heal, and slowly build new lives.

"If you're far away when someone you care about is in mourning, send this book--it's the next best thing to being there. And if you doubt whether your being there will do any good, read this book, and you will learn how to become the wise, reassuring, and understanding person a good friend is when a loved one has died."
—Minneapolis Star


Rabbi Earl A. Grollman is an internationally recognized bereavement counselor who has been named Hero of the Heartland and given the Distinguished Human Service Award from Yeshiva University, among countless other awards. He is author of the best-selling Living When a Loved One Has Died (Beacon / 2719-7 / $10.00 pb), among many other books, and articles about him and his work have appeared in USA Today, Harper's, Reader's Digest, Ann Landers, People, and in virtually every major American daily. He lives in Belmont, Massachusetts.


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Living with Grief (Grief Steps Guide)

by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair


 


A caring and compassionate guide through the first year of grief. We can never truly be prepared for the death of a loved one. In the wake of grief, we face a whirlwind of emotions, pain and physical symptoms. Best-selling grief authors Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. share the wisdom they have gleaned from their own experience and from working with hundreds of people who have survived such a loss. In this caring and compassionate guide, the authors walk you through the complicated emotions of griefs first year and offer a hand to hold in your time of need. Let this book be your anchor as you embark on your own pathway through grief.




 


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Living With Loss, Healing With Hope
by Earl A. Grollman

 








 


Earl Grollman's Living When a Loved One Has Died has brought comfort to more than 250,000 readers. In Living with Loss, Healing with Hope, Grollman speaks directly to mourners of the Jewish faith. By weaving quotations from Jewish writers and philosophers into his comforting and expert prose, Grollman guides readers through the journey of mourning, healing, and hope.

A colleague of Grollman's once told him, "Earl, I am not a member of your faith, but if I wanted the soundest emotional and spiritual approach to death, I would be a Jew." Occasionally quoting from sacred texts as well as Jewish writers and philosophers, Living with Loss, Healing with Hope illuminates Judaism's powerful recognition of the trauma of grief and of the mourner's responsibility eventually to return to the rhythm of life. In a brief final section, the author guides readers through Jewish funeral observances, Shiva, and beyond, and reminds all that these symbolic customs are "about change-remembrance, letting go, and moving on."

Rabbi Earl A. Grollman is an internationally recognized bereavement counselor who has been named Hero of the Heartland and given the Distinguished Human Service Award from Yeshiva University, among countless other awards. He is author of the best-selling Living When a Loved One Has Died (Beacon / 2719-7 / $10.00 pb), among many other books, and articles about him and his work have appeared in USA Today, Harper's, Reader's Digest, Ann Landers, People, and in virtually every major American daily. He lives in Belmont, Massachusetts.


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Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide
by Earl A. Grollman

 

A welcome guide for young people who are trying to come to terms with a friend's suicide. Setting straight the myths about suicide and addressing the feelings of shock, grief, anger, and guilt, the authors offer practical, empathetic advice.
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.





 


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Loss and Found: How We Survived the Loss of a Young Spouse
by Gary Young

 

 

 

Loss and Found is the heart-wrenching story of two people who had children and families but lost their spouse. Each tells the story of their early life, marriage, family, and the story of discovering the illness and working through that, eventually losing the battle. They detail their struggles with the children, finances, friends, feelings of loss, and the other emotional roller coaster feelings. They tell their experiences with young widowhood and their introduction back into dating. This is Gary and Kathy survived the loss of their spouses at a young age and eventually found each other. Told from both the male and female perspectives and full of insight, it is sure to be helpful to anyone experiencing loss and looking for hope. Of particular value are the items in Appendix A. It includes the changes and fears that a young widow/widower faces and the thoughts/problems that they have to deal with. It provides a great point of reference for those who would like to help someone experiencing the situation. A highly recommended read for anyone experiencing such a loss, who knows someone going through it, or who might be in a position to counsel someone with such a loss. There is very little literature available specifically for young widows/widowers and this is among the best. --Harold McFarland-Reader s Preference, Amazon Top 50


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Loving Still, Loving Always
by Nita Aasen

 

 


This collection of essays illuminates the heart and soul of a mother living with loss after the simultaneous deaths of her two young adult sons, Erik and David, in a car accident on Thanksgiving Day, 1994. In order to make sense of her reality, she writes to confront her grief head-on, to question societal expectations surrounding loss by death, and to explore what would bring comfort and meaning into her radically changed life. By giving voice to the grief experience, she also encourages others to give the bereaved permission to mourn.

As a nurse, Nita Aasen has worked in hospitals in both rural and urban settings as a nursing instructor, and for the last seventeen years in public health. Working in the obstetrical unit, medical surgical areas, and the emergency room brought a myriad of contacts with those confronting death and dying, loss and grief. As a nursing instructor at a small private liberal arts college, she brought these educational and clinical experiences to the classroom. Years later, when her two young adult sons, Erik and David, were killed in a freak car accident, she learned how little she truly knew about grief.


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Please Hear of My Lost Love
by Doug Manning


 

This book speaks to any family who will not be viewing a body because of tragic circumstances or personal choice. Doug provides guidance and comfort to families who are not in the position to view their loved one; outlining some of issues that they may face on their grief journey.

This book is perfect for funeral directors, military chaplains, airline family support groups, chaplains, police support teams or emergency disaster teams.

This booklet was orignially written for the families of the victims of the September 11, 2001 attacks. Through generous donations of several companies and individuals, over 15,000 copies were donated to New York City and Washington DC.


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Seven Choices: Finding Daylight After Loss Shatters Your World
by Elizabeth Harper Neeld


 

Referring in her title to phases of the grieving process and their eventual resolution, the author (a writer and former professor of English) movingly recounts her own widowhood--a halting progress toward understanding recurrent grief and an attainment of a hard-won creative outcome. She offers a well-organized and detailed review of research on grief, with 60 vignettes by others who have lost loved ones through death or divorce. It will be of interest to a broad audience, including families and loved ones experiencing problems consoling or advising the bereaved. This well-written work provides accurate and ample information to help us find pattern and significance in the healing process.

 


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Share My Lonesome Valley
by Doug Manning

 

 


ALS, Alzheimer's Disease, AIDS, cancer, heart disease, Parkinson's disease. . .the list of terminal or debilitating illnesses goes on. The one thing that all of these diseases have in common is that almost every patient has a person who is acting as a primary caregiver. Long-term care means the caregiver is busy, overwhelmed and tired with very little opportunity to realize or reconcile the gradual losses that take place. This takes a toll on the caregiver, the family and the patient. Doug outlines the dangers and issues and gently provides opportunities for the caregiver to deal with the "quiet sorrows" that make this type of caregiving a difficult task.

Doug Manning has been writing and speaking in the areas of grief and elder care for the past 20 years. His best selling titles "Don't Take My Grief Away From Me" and "When Love Gets Tough" have sold over a million copies since published. A former minister, Manning now travels the country as a most sought after seminar speaker. His company, In-Sight Books has published over 40 books, audios, and videos in these special topic areas. Doug writes like a long-time friend who is sitting in the room with you sharing your experiences and your hurt.  


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Suicide of a Child
by Adina Wrobleski

 

 

For parents whose child has completed suicide. Goes into detail about victimization, social stigma, guilt, anger, history and recovery. "The main thing for you to remember is: You are not to blame for the death of your child. The decision for death has to belong to your child, not you."

 

 

 


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Surviving Holidays, Birthdays and Anniversaries (Grief Steps Guide)

by Brook Noel

 



 


Good cheer, laughter and happiness are emotions often associated with holidays and special occasions. Yet those experiencing grief feel a vastly different set of emotions.
In this caring and compassionate guide, Brook Noel explores the different challenges brought on by holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and other special occasions. She'll share with you want to expect along with strategies for coping during those difficult days. You'll also find some ideas for creating new rituals and incorporating your lost loved one into future celebrations.

A caring and compassionate guide to help you through difficult days Good cheer, laughter and happiness are emotions often associated with holidays and special occasions. Yet those experiencing grief feel a vastly different set of emotions. In this caring and compassionate guide, Brook Noel explores the different challenges brought on by holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and other special occasions. She'll share with you want to expect along with strategies for coping during those difficult days. You'll also find some ideas for creating new rituals and incorporating your lost loved one into future celebrations.

 


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The Empty Chair: Handling Grief of the Holidays and Special Occasions
by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge

 











 



Losing a loved one whether a spouse, parent, child, sibling, or friend leaves people feeling overwhelmed and hopeless. Holidays and other special occasions seem to intensify the pain. Whether the occasion is Christmas or Easter, a birthday or anniversary, these celebrations force the bereaved to again face the reality of a loved one's absence. Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert C. De Vries know firsthand the sorrow of bereavement: Both lost a spouse. Yet as they faced their pain and gleaned insights from their professions Susan is a psychologist, Robert, a minister they found renewed richness on special days that once brought heartache. In The Empty Chair, the authors share a comforting blend of emotional support, spiritual guidance, and personal experience to help readers honor their loved one on important days. Those who support the bereaved mental-health professionals, pastors, funeral home staff, and others will also appreciate this book for its reflective yet practical approach.


Like a firestorm blazing through a forest, the grief of losing a loved one seems to leave nothing but ashes in its path. The hope and meaning in life appear to vanish. And at no time is that pain more acute than on holidays and other special occasions. Yet even after a forest fire, eventually there is new growth. Out of the devastation of grief you can begin again. In The Empty Chair, the authors, who have each experienced the death of a spouse, share both pastoral and mental health insights on how you can handle significant days. Offering a comforting blend of emotional support, spiritual guidance, and personal experience, this book is a reflective yet practical approach to finding peace and joy on your journey through grief.  Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge (R.N., Ed.D.) is a clinical psychologist at Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services. Robert C. DeVries (D.Min, Ph.D.) is professor of church education at Calvin Theological Seminary and an ordained minister. They live in Grand Rapids, Michigan.


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The Mourning Handbook
by Helen Fitzgerald

 

Earl A. Grollman author of Living When a Loved One Has Died  recommends The Mourning Handbook to any reader in search of a path out of the wilderness of despair. It is a compass, pointing the way to recovery.






 


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Thoughts for the Lonely Nights
by Doug Manning

 



For a person in grief, the night rarely brings rest and relief. Often that is when all the questions, hurts and tears find a way to come out. Doug brings his best discussions about loss to this book and then provides blank pages following each chapter for the reader to respond, reflect and journal. In a unique twist to the journaling concept, also included is a CD with Doug reading portions of the book along with soothing, contemplative music for those times when it is too difficult even to read and when sleep won't come. This is a wonderful answer for those in the throes of grief recovery.

Doug Manning has been writing and speaking in the areas of grief and elder care for the past 20 years. His best selling titles "Don't Take My Grief Away From Me" and "When Love Gets Tough" have sold over a million copies since published. A former minister, Manning now travels the country as a most sought after seminar speaker. His company, In-Sight Books has published over 40 books, audios, and videos in these special topic areas. Doug writes like a long-time friend who is sitting in the room with you sharing your experiences and your hurt  


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Thoughts for the Grieving Christian
by Doug Manning


 


For a person in grief, the night rarely brings rest and relief. Often that is when all the questions, hurts and tears find a way to come out. Doug calls that being lonely to the bone. In this beautiful book, Doug brings his best discussions about loss and the grief journey and how to find help and comfort along to way. He calls this book a conversation about grief. Blank pages follow each chapter for writing. Wonderful for the person who may be sitting up late nights searching for answers.

Doug's career has included minister, counselor, business executive, author and publisher. After thirty years in the ministry, Doug began a new career and now devotes his time to writing, counseling and leading seminars in the areas of grief and elder care. His publishing company, In-Sight Books, Inc. specializes in books and dvd's specifically designed to help people face some of the toughest challenges of life.


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Thoughts for the Holidays: Finding Permission to Grieve
by Doug Manning

 

The holidays are difficult for anyone on the grief journey. The candles are lit, the houses are decorated and the grieving person struggles to find any joy in the celebrations.

Doug gives the reader permission to find their own special way to cope, to remember and to survive the hurdles that the holiday season can present.

Buy it for yourself, for a friend or family member or purchase in quantity to give at this year's memorial service.


 


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Understanding Grief
by Edgar N. Jackson

 





 


Grief is a stark reality-for death is inevitable. Grief is deeper than the temporary depression and sadness which immediately follow the shock of death-it has marked psychological and physical symptoms, and the loss demands a total readjustment to environment. This book aids the minister and counselor in discovering new ways to help the bereaved make this adjustment safely and creatively.

From a starting point of defining grief, Dr. Jackson thoroughly explores the dynamics of grief; the role of guilt; the function of a  religious philosophy in handling the grief experience; the value of religious symbols and rites in exteriorizing grief feelings; and normal and pathological reactions.

The author then turns to the role of the pastor as counselor. With discussion, interpretation, and skillful use of case material-studies taken directly from the parish ministry-Dr. Jackson shows how the grief-stricken may be restored to useful living and responsive communication with others-sustained by a faith in the goodness of God.

In this integrated study the psychological, theological, and philosophical dimensions of bereavement find clear expression. Readers will find a perceptive history of man's reaction to death-a lucid explanation of the dynamics of grief-and practical methods of counseling which can restore the grief-stricken to a useful life. 


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When Grief Comes: Finding Strength for Today and Hope for Tomorrow

by Kirk H. Neely

 









 


God's tender mercies will embrace you in the midst of grief. The death of a loved one sends us on a lonely and painful journey, one Kirk Neely knows well. Not only does he counsel the bereaved as a seasoned pastor, in a few months' time he faced the death of three loved ones--including his son. Now, in When Grief Comes, he offers personal stories and practical information to help you understand each stage and phase of grief. He also suggests symbols of hope to assure you of God's care and concern along the way and includes a special section on the needs of grieving children. Neely always points you toward the ultimate hope for Christians--eternal life in heaven, including a joyful reunion with those who believe. For yourself or a bereaved friend, When Grief Comes is a wise, strong companion to take along on grief's journey as you heal into a more hopeful tomorrow. "When Grief Comes is a truthful book, written from the center of this pastor's own broken heart. . . . It will be a book of encouragement for those mourning the death of a child, a grandparent, a parent, a spouse, a friend."--Stephanie Paulsell, Houghton Professor of the Practice of Ministry Studies, Harvard Divinity School "When Grief Comes will be helpful to all who aspire to give comfort to those who walk through the valley of the shadow of death."--Cliff Barrows, music and program director, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association "Kirk Neely is a worthy successor to his mentor and teacher, Wayne E. Oates. Both speak from Scripture to the human condition. If you read only one book on grief, I recommend it be When Grief Comes. Such a joyful read should be shared."--Clarence Y. Barton, retired chaplain Kirk H. Neely is senior pastor of Morningside Baptist Church in Spartanburg, South Carolina. He holds a doctor of ministry degree in pastoral counseling and psychology of religion from The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Neely has been a pastor and counselor for over forty years.


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When Will I Stop Hurting?
by June Cerza Kolf



 











 


"When my father passed away, a friend gave me When Will I Stop Hurting? It was such a help to me, that whenever I know someone who loses a loved one, I send them this book to read." Since its 1987 release, When Will I Stop Hurting? has received praise like this from readers grateful for June Cerza Kolf's understanding and beneficial guidance. With almost 70,000 copies in print, this small but powerful book has been a boon to many wounded souls. Readers have found in Kolf a gentle guide to lead them through the stages of grief and eventually the healing process. This new edition of her book is revised and updated and includes a study guide ideal for bereavement groups.

You've lost someone you loved, and now the pain seems unendurable. June Cerza Kolf understands. She, too, has suffered the wound of grief, and as a veteran of hospice work, has counseled many mourning people. In this gentle, empathic book, Kolf leads you through the stages of grief, helping you understand what to expect as time goes on and making you mindful of potential pitfalls such as feeling anger or guilt, dealing with holidays, and experiencing physical distress. No matter what the loss has been, it takes time and heart-wrenching work for the wound to heal. Kolf takes you by the hand and helps you do this painful--yet vital--work. She offers practical and therapeutic ways of dealing with depression and easing pain and gives creative ideas for expressing your love and remembrance. The grief exercises provided in this book are an outlet for working through your pain on your own or in a small-group setting. Most of all, as When Will I Stop Hurting? guides you through the rough terrain of grieving, it will also point you to God, the one true source of healing.
 


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Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life
by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg

 

 

In this remarkably useful guide, widow, author, and therapist Genevieve Davis Ginsburg offers fellow widows-as well as their family and friends-sage advice for coping with the loss of a husband. From learning to travel and eat alone to creating new routines to surviving the holidays and anniversaries that reopen emotional wounds, Widow to Widow walks readers through the challenges of widowhood and encourages them on their path to building a new life.

The late Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, M.S., founded Widowed to Widowed Services, a support group in Tucson, Arizona. She received the Jefferson Award and the Arizona Governor's Award for her social service.


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